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When people talk about daddy issues
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where the father has abandoned that
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child at an early age, what attachment
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style do you think those kind of people
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fit into?
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So they're either dismissing avoidant
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which means um they don't have any of
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the anxiety associated with
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relationships or they're fearful
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avoidant. So they they they avoid them
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because they're scared of being hurt.
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Do you think generally those people have
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a higher probability of being fearful
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avoidant? They certainly have a higher
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probability of having an insecure
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attachment style because as I mentioned
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in the first two years of life when your
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brain is growing the environment in
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which you're being cared for is going to
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shape that brain. That's going to impact
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how your brain grows particularly in
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that prefrontal cortex. So the bit right
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at the front here,
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okay, where all your social cognition
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is. And it's going to have less gray and
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white matter in that area. uh is going
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to have less density of neurons and less
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of a high level of neurochemistry which
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underpins social behavior. When you're
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an adult, you're just not as equipped to
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be good at relationships. You don't
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actually have the brain architecture to
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underpin it or indeed the neurochemical
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the baseline neurochemical levels
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circulating in their body which is going
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to motivate and reward them for starting
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relationships. So they just don't have
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the equipment that people who maybe grew
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up in a secure environment do. So that's
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one of the problems. And so when people
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say daddy issues, partly what they're
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talking about is attachment style.