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This Is What Daddy Issues Really Looks Like

July 11, 202501:21
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When people talk about daddy issues
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where the father has abandoned that
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child at an early age, what attachment
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style do you think those kind of people
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fit into?
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So they're either dismissing avoidant
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which means um they don't have any of
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the anxiety associated with
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relationships or they're fearful
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avoidant. So they they they avoid them
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because they're scared of being hurt.
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Do you think generally those people have
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a higher probability of being fearful
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avoidant? They certainly have a higher
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probability of having an insecure
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attachment style because as I mentioned
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in the first two years of life when your
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brain is growing the environment in
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which you're being cared for is going to
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shape that brain. That's going to impact
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how your brain grows particularly in
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that prefrontal cortex. So the bit right
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at the front here,
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okay, where all your social cognition
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is. And it's going to have less gray and
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white matter in that area. uh is going
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to have less density of neurons and less
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of a high level of neurochemistry which
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underpins social behavior. When you're
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an adult, you're just not as equipped to
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be good at relationships. You don't
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actually have the brain architecture to
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underpin it or indeed the neurochemical
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the baseline neurochemical levels
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circulating in their body which is going
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to motivate and reward them for starting
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relationships. So they just don't have
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the equipment that people who maybe grew
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up in a secure environment do. So that's
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one of the problems. And so when people
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say daddy issues, partly what they're
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talking about is attachment style.

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In this thought-provoking episode, the discussion dives deep into the psychology behind "daddy issues" and attachment styles. The conversation explores how early childhood experiences shape our relational dynamics as adults, particularly focusing on the impact of an absent father. Listeners are taken on a journey through the intricacies of brain development, revealing how insecure attachment styles can stem from early abandonment. The episode challenges conventional wisdom, offering a fresh perspective on emotional health and relationship challenges. It's a blend of science and real-life implications that resonates on multiple levels, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the roots of their own relationship patterns.

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Episode Highlights

  • Impact of Early Environment
    The first two years of life shape brain development and social cognition.
    “The environment in which you're being cared for is going to shape that brain.”
    @ 00m 30s
    July 11, 2025
  • Consequences of Insecure Attachment
    Insecure attachment leads to difficulties in adult relationships due to brain architecture.
    “You don't actually have the brain architecture to underpin it”
    @ 00m 57s
    July 11, 2025

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Key Moments

  • Insecure Attachment00:23
  • Brain Development00:30
  • Relationship Challenges00:57