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There will always be certain cases that resonate with those of us who cover and watch true crime. People always ask me,
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"Whatever happened to this family or that particular family?" Because they remember those characters, those
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families. They feel like they know them in some way. Well, this week's case is about that part of the story. It is a
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murder mystery and an intriguing one at that. But it is also about what happens in the days and the years after someone
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is violently and unexpectedly ripped from your life. How do you go on? Can you go on? This week you will meet three
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extraordinary, completely remarkable women, a mother and two sisters of a young woman named Nancy Bishop who was
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murdered more than two decades ago. Each of those women has had to find a way to
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deal with the loss. And they have, but they're totally at odds. Except that these three women are not at odds with
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each other. And that is what I found fascinating about this case. When producer Chris Okonnell came to me and
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told me about it, the murder mystery part of it was interesting, but it was how these women have found a way to go
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on. And as a person who is sometimes accused of having strong opinions, I could not imagine how you could sit down
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with your family and not engage in a passionate debate about such strong and differing opinions. And yet, they have
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found a way. And in the last few months, I have had to find a way. Little did I know when we started covering this case
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that there would be a point in my life I'd sort of be faced with a similar situation. About a month into covering
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this case, my family also suffered a horrible tragic loss. My brother-in-law was killed in a car accident. Doug had a
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very full life. He was a father of four. He was a husband, a son, a brother. He was my husband's business partner, and
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for 25 years, the two of them talked on the phone or saw each other every single
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day at work. Somehow, the family has had to find a way to go on. And this is the
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second time. He is the second sibling of theirs that was killed in a car crash. And yet, this family has found a way to
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work together. Including my husband's mother, his siblings, all of their spouses, and all of our children. There
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were 20 of us. Now, there are 19. In the last six months since his death, I have
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witnessed at least 19 different ways of dealing with this loss, and I have not agreed with all of them. But the first
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round of holidays and special events are upon us since his passing. And like those three women from this week's show
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have done for more than two decades, my family too will sit down, hold hands, say a prayer of thanksgiving, probably
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shed some tears, and hopefully we'll share some laughter, although I'm sure it will be bittersweet. And we'll have
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to find a way to do that. Because even though we differ on how to handle things, what remains most important to
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all of us is that the 19 stay together. For more than two decades covering crime, I have witnessed almost every
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imaginable way of dealing with grief. Some of it seems normal. Some of it is different because it's not maybe what
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you or I would do, including forgiving a murderer and in one case befriending one. I've learned in the last few months
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from this family that we've spent so much time with as well as my own that grief is often tied to the depth of the
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relationship and the kind of relationship that one has with the person who has been lost. It's very
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challenging. Often what you said and what you did not have a chance to say before that person died ties into it.
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Grief and how you handle it seems to be so closely tied to healing. Grief is often the expression of excruciating
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personal loss, but healing, as I've discovered in the last few months, is also about how you honor the person who
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has been lost. I'm Moren Maher. I hope that you'll join us this weekend. And the show is called Road to Redemption.