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there will always be certain cases that resonate with those of us who cover and watch True Crime people always ask me
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whatever happened to this family or that particular family because they remember
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those characters those families they feel like they know them in some way well this week's case is about that part
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of the story it is a murder mystery and an intriguing one at that but it is also
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about what happens in the days and the years after someone is violently and unexpectedly ripped from your life how
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do you go on can you go on this week you will meet three extrordinary completely
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remarkable women a mother and two sisters of a young woman named Nancy Bishop who was murdered more than two
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decades ago each of those women has had to find a way to deal with the loss and they have but they're totally at odds
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except that these three women are not at odds with each other and that is what I
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found fascinating about this case when producer Chris oconnell came to me and told me about it the murder mystery part
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of it was interesting but it was how these women have found a way to go on and as a person who is sometimes accused
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of having strong opinions I could not imagine how you could sit down with your family and not engage in a passionate
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debate about such strong and differing opinions and yet they have found a way and in the last few months I have had to
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find a way little did I know when when we started covering this case that there would be a point in my life I'd sort of
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be faced with a similar situation about a month into covering this case my family also suffered a horrible tragic
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loss my brother-in-law was killed in a car accident Doug had a very full life he was a father of four he was a husband
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a son a brother he was my husband's business partner and for 25 years the two of them talked on the phone or saw
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each other every single day at work somehow the family has had to find a way to go on and this is the second time he
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is the second sibling of theirs that was killed in a car crash and yet this family has found a way to work together
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including my husband's mother his siblings all of their spouses and all of our children there were 20 of us now
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there are 19 in the last six months since his death I have witnessed at least 19 different ways of dealing with
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this loss and have not agreed with all of them but the first round of holidays and special events are upon us since his
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passing and like those three women from this week's show have done for more than
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two decades my family too will sit down hold hands say a prayer of Thanksgiving probably shed some tears and hopefully
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we'll share some laughter although I'm sure it will be bsweet and we'll have to find a way to do that because even
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though we differ on how to handle things what remains most important to all of us
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is that the n te stay together for more than two decades covering crime I have witnessed almost every imaginable way of
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dealing with grief some of it seems normal some of it is different because it's not maybe what you or I would do
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including forgiving a murderer and in one case befriending one I've learned in the last few months from this family
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that we've spent so much time with as well as my own that grief is often tied to the depth of the relationship and the
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kind of relationship that one has with the person who has been lost it's very challenging often what you said and what
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you did not have a chance to say before that person died ties into it grief and how you handle it seems to be so closely
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tied to Healing grief is often the expression of excruciating personal loss but healing as I've discovered in the
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last few months is also about how you honor the person who has been lost I'm Morin Maher I hope that you'll join us
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this weekend the show is called Road to Redemption I'll be on Twitter producers will be on Facebook during the show if
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you happen to miss it you can always go to the 48 Hours app and you can find us at CBS news.com have a great and safe
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holiday season