SIGNS YOU'RE A CONVERSATIONAL NARCISSIST

If you go into a conversation thinking all about yourself, how can I be impressive? How can I be smart and funny and how can I get them to like me? It's quite selfish and it's a lot of pressure. >> There's some people that roll up and they talk about themselves and that's what they want to talk about. >> Conversational narcissist. These are people in conversation and this is when they'll answer for themselves. They'll tell you all about their goals and they'll tell you the most deepest things that you did not want to know. And that's when you get like verbal vomit. You have a choice. You can either try to teach them that that's not the way that

they should be in conversation and you can literally say, "Is it my turn yet? Do you want to hear about mine? Do you want to hear about my goal?" If this is a person you're going to invest in and you care for and you like, you have to stand up for what you want to share. >> Where does that conversational narcissism come from? >> Insecurity. They're trying to impress you. They're trying to find something to raise your eyebrows. But they don't realize that the more they talk, the more you're like, Some conversational narcissists are aware of it and hate themselves for it. They literally know what's happening and

they're like, "Why? Why am I doing this?" But they can't stop cuz they're so scared of the awkward silence. We asked a couple thousand people, "What is your greatest conversational fear?" I thought it was going to be rejection or judgement. No, it was awkward silences. 4,000 people. Their biggest conversational fear is not being rejected. It's running out of things to say. >> How do they fix it? >> Curiosity. I do believe in like assertive curiosity. Not just the follow-up, like tell me more. The what, the how, the why, the when. They would recover from it by being aggressively or assertively curious about you.