The Story Behind Homeschooled: Stefan Merrill Block Opens Up
- Jun 12, 2026
- 1:06:52
- Full Episode
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This week I have the honor of sitting down with author Stefan Merrill Block to discuss his memoir Homeschooled, his years in an isolating homeschooling environment, and the complicated relationship he shared with his mother.
Stefan opens up about being pulled out of public school at age nine, the isolation that followed, the pressure of being told he was a prodigy, and the difficult transition back into traditional school after four and a half years of homeschooling.
We also explore themes that will resonate with many former homeschoolers: loneliness, identity, friendship, family enmeshment, educational neglect, and the long-lasting effects of childhood narratives. Beyond homeschooling, Stefan shares how books became a lifeline, how writing helped him process grief after his mother's death, and why he believes storytelling can be one of the most powerful tools for healing.
Whether you're an ex-homeschooler, current homeschool parent, educator, or simply interested in memoir and family dynamics, this conversation offers a thoughtful look at the complicated realities behind one family's homeschool experience.
*Connect with Stefan* • Grab a copy of the book: https://bookshop.org/p/books/homeschooled-a-new-york-times-bestselling-memoir-and-read-with-jenna-pick-stefan-merrill-block/7e9b1465fdf608ff?ean=9781335000989&next=t • Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanmblock/ • Check out his website: https://www.stefanmerrillblock.com
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*Chapters* 00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro 01:35 How Homeschooling Began 02:53 Bluff Called Leaving School 04:57 Unschooling Day to Day 07:30 Math CDs and Drifting 09:05 Isolation and Genius Myth 12:02 Decision to Return 16:06 High School Culture Shock 20:01 Success Versus Scars 24:35 Friendship After Homeschool 25:54 2020 Isolation Flashbacks 31:16 Owning the Homeschool Identity 33:03 Sanity Is Consensus 34:34 Finding A Writer Voice 35:45 Books As Empathy 39:35 Fiction Versus Memoir 42:47 Writing After Loss 47:42 Choosing Homeschooled Title 52:18 Calling For Homeschool Reform 53:54 Finding CRHE Community 57:14 Hate Mail And Defensiveness 59:15 Next Novel New Focus 01:03:11 Stories Change Laws 01:04:16 Wrap Up And Farewell
Brief Summary
Stephan Merryill Block discusses his homeschooling experience and its impact on his life and writing.
Key points
- Stephan's Homeschooling Journey. Stephan shares his experience of being homeschooled and the challenges he faced.
- The Moment of Decision. Stephan recalls the pivotal moment he decided to confront his mother about returning to school.
- The Struggles of Homeschooling. Navigating the challenges of socialization and academic pressure after being homeschooled.
- The Scars of Homeschooling. Reflecting on the lasting emotional impact of homeschooling experiences.
- Friendship and Loneliness. Discussing the difficulty of maintaining friendships as an adult.
- The Importance of Community. Recognizing the need for friendships and community support during tough times.
Episode highlights
- Stephan's Homeschooling JourneyStephan shares his experience of being homeschooled and the challenges he faced.“I was just so lonely, you know, and it was just my mom and me.”9:18Jun 12, 2026
- The Moment of DecisionStephan recalls the pivotal moment he decided to confront his mother about returning to school.“I gathered up my courage and told her.”13:56Jun 12, 2026
- The Struggles of HomeschoolingNavigating the challenges of socialization and academic pressure after being homeschooled.“I went from being Einstein to being the kid who was failing the class.”19:45Jun 12, 2026
- The Scars of HomeschoolingReflecting on the lasting emotional impact of homeschooling experiences.“The scars are real too.”22:32Jun 12, 2026
- Friendship and LonelinessDiscussing the difficulty of maintaining friendships as an adult.“I’ve had to learn how friendships work.”25:13Jun 12, 2026
- The Importance of CommunityRecognizing the need for friendships and community support during tough times.“When we don’t have each other, we go a little bit nuts.”30:08Jun 12, 2026
- The Power of ReadingReading connects us deeply with others' lives, acting as an empathy machine.“A novel is an empathy machine.”36:36Jun 12, 2026
- Transformative Writing JourneyWriting became a means of healing and empowerment after loss.“It was empowering. It was validating.”45:11Jun 12, 2026





